Do You Like... Stuff?

Extra credit if you get the title of this post. (Leave a comment if you know the reference.)

When we're kids we pursue what we like. We read books that interest us, create games with friends, and just generally fill our days with what suits us. For me, this meant becoming obsessed with an electronic typewriter my mom brought home from work. I actually taught myself to type. And then I wrote stories on it. I also did things like try to learn to play the piano on a small toy one (my parents later conceded with proper lessons and a real piano). I was a weirdly prolific diarist and letter writer and I would create "magazines" by cutting out pictures from catalogues and magazines. I also rode my bike and climbed on jungle gyms - like a more normal kid - but there was usually a narrative involved in these activities too.

But then we grow up. I remember the conscious decision I took when leaving for college to stop keeping a journal. I wanted to "experience" things and not just reflect on them. And I took some classes that I wasn't that interested in to push myself and branch out. And there have been many times in my career where I've focused on what I think I should be doing instead of what I wanted to be doing. Not that these things are bad -- in fact, they must be a necessary growth phase.

There's a school of thought, however, about focusing on what inspires us. From Leo Baubauta's no goals philosophy to Steve Job's explanation that a caligraphy class taken in college inpired the fonts on the original mac computer, the idea is that we can't always see where our interests will get us. It's the process that gives us the joy along the way and we can often only connect the dots in hindsight anyway.

So I've been paying attention recently to what "stuff" interests me. I suppose you could say this blog is part of the process. I was almost ready to ditch it a while back. Not feeling like I had that much more to say on the physio stuff (since I'm so much better these days) and feeling a bit stuck in general. And then I thought, well, why can't I just use it to write about what interests me right now, no matter what it is? If people want to read it, grand, and if not, at least I'm still exercising my writing muscle.

In addition to reading what I like, writing about what interests me and even considering taking up the piano again, I've also begun to notice some new things. Here are a few that have taken me a bit by surprise:

Flowers.
The hub and I have become addicted to the luxury of having fresh cut flowers in our flat. There's an amazing flower stall outside of the exit of the Clapham Junction station that we both have to pass on our way home. And we often talk about the flowers we see there and have experimented with buying different combinations. I've been also trying to learn the names of what we're buying as I know absolutely nothing about flowers. Here's a photo of one of my favorites. We call them the brain flowers. And in fact, that's almost what they are called, often referred to as the brain celosia or celosia cockscomb, because they also bear a little resemblance to a rooster's comb.




The way people used to live.
When we went on vacation to Ireland last autumn (and also learned something about Halloween), we visited this amazing house in Killarney, called Muckross House, which is a 19th century Victorian mansion. The hub was not so keen to take the tour (he hates tours) but I was really intrigued, so he conceded. And I was absolutely fascinated by the period decoration of the main rooms in the house and the information we learned about the occupants and how the house itself worked -- all the bells that rang down to the servants in the basement were still there. For some reason, I love the minutiae of everyday life in the past. What did people eat? Where did they sleep? The more boring and routine, the better.

Biography.
But I'm also interested in people's stories. In fact, the owners of Muckross House nearly bankrupted themselves preparing for Queen Victoria's visit in 1861. That's why biography has been a genre I've discovered in my 30s and haven't turned back (although in retrospect I did like biography as a kid, even though it was usually a school assignment to read it). The first recent biography I read was Josephine: The Rose of Martinique by Andrea Stuart about Napoleon's wife. I only read it because I was taking a non-fiction writing class and my teacher was the author. But it gave me the bug. I think it's the combination of everyday life combined with the fact that truth really can be stranger than fiction. And it also reminds me that no matter how much our lives change with technology and indoor plumbing, they always stay the same. I believe that what motivates, entertains and strikes fear in our hearts is a constant, no matter in what century you live on this earth.

So, what "stuff" have you discovered you like recently? Are you paying attention?

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Procrastination, Like Death And Taxes

Do you know people who don't procrastinate?

I know a few, and they are very annoying. They are the kind of people who did their homework the minute they walked in the door, or get their taxes filed ahead of time. I suppose one of the reasons I took relatively well to journalism was that it's the kind of job that prevented procrastination. At least at the day or hour of deadline.

But I've always known deep down that people who don't procrastinate suffer from less stress. So I've been searching ages for a way to stop the madness, and make life a little easier. I'm probably shouldn't admit it, but I've read whole books on the subject.

And I know I'm not alone -- in procrastinating, that is (not reading books about it). It's inevitable, like death and taxes. Everyone's got the thing they procrastinate about. And people always tell me that there are things they badly want or need to do -- so why can't they just get on with it?

I wanted to share something groundbreaking I just stumbled upon. I was reading a book by Oliver Burkeman, called The Antidote (which, ironically, I will review some other time). There's a section where he reveals an awkard truth about procrastination. He says:

The problem is that feeling like acting and actually acting are two different things. A person mired deep in procrastination might claim he is unable to work, but what really means is that he is unable to make himself feel like working.

And so the problem really lies in the misconception that in order to do something you actually have to feel like doing it. And that is a real problem. How often do we feel like doing admin tasks or going to the gym? Or even going to work?

Which leads me to the conclusion that in order to get anything really productive done I either need to be required to do it (going to work) or have a deadline (taxes). But I think there are a few other options:

Habits. If you want to do something on a regular basis or for the long term, like work out, write or learn how to sail, you have to build a structure around it. I've experienced this with the habit I've formed of going to yoga on a Sunday. Sometimes I wake up on a Sunday and think, I don't really feel like going to yoga today. But then, I realize that it's Sunday, and going to yoga is just what I do.

And I'm sure if you have any interest in writing you've been told about how all those famous writers wrote a certain number of words or worked for a certain number of hours in a day. Beause that's how work gets done.

The other option is non-attachment. And that's when you tell yourself something like this: So you don't feel like it? Too bad. And then you do it anyway, and once you start, usually everything is fine. That's when I find it's good to focus on the physical. For example, if I need to write something I'll focus first on opening up Word. That's all I'm doing, opening up Word!

I hope you'll find this little bit of insight on procrastination as valuable as I have. It hasn't helped me get my U.S. taxes done yet, but here's hoping.

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